Thursday, May 21, 2009

Today I celebrate calling this great land my country


The journey was seeded by a simple intention. I was 10 years old when I thought to myself that one day I would love to be in America. I speculate that being told as a boy that America saved us (Singapore) from the Japanese occupation and the daily exposure to the glamor of Hollywood might have had something to do with the stirrings in my heart.

Sixteen years since I planted that thought, I arrived in Charlotte, NC. It was surreal to see snow for the first time; yet, it wasn’t love at first sight. Charlotte was a tad too sedated for a twenty-something eager to soak up everything the land had to offer. Feeling home sick and lonely, I was ready to head home for good when I received what seemed like an unlikely offer of job and immigration sponsorship. I knew that if I refused, I would forever wonder what if I had accepted. I didn’t think I could live with that constant wondering. Doors do open when we put out our intentions and take leaps of faith. No wonder they say be careful what you wish for. So here I am, my desires manifested. The rest, as they said, is history.

Today I celebrate calling this great land my country. There was so much beauty to behold; too many magical moments to recount and all you awesome Americans who made me feel right at home. The journey had been punctuated with painful moments, but today is no occasion to recap them. It is a time to rejoice; besides, there is no point boring everyone with details of how tough the journey had been except to proclaim with an unequivocal YES, it was all worth it.

Having lived on both ends of the globe as well as both coasts of this land give me some level-headed perspective of what citizenship means. You will not find me boasting that the USA is the greatest. Although I may become slightly protective and declare a few virtues America possesses ever so gently. Then again, does it even matter. I have experienced goodness and there is no point convincing anyone else that I like what I tasted.

Today at my oath ceremony, I gladly surrendered my green card in exchange for a Naturalization certificate that never expires. It is symbolic of letting go all the cares of the infamous immigration process. I am mindful that some among you are on your own journey to that elusive green card or citizenship. I want to encourage you to be patient and know that your time will come if you truly want it. No matter how hard it had been, there is no country as welcoming as the USA.

So for my first order of business: register to vote and speak with my new-found voice. Come celebrate with me as I take baby steps and savor every bit of this American dream that has only just begun.

God Bless America.

Thursday, February 05, 2009

25 Random Things about Demin

1. I love Italian, French, and most Asian cuisines. I must have at least one Asian meal each week. I can go without Mexican food and Hamburgers. I get cranky without dark chocolate. Dark chocolate with nuts is a plus. There should always be a tub of ice cream in the fridge. When I was a little kid, the only vegetables I eat are cilantro and green onion. I eat most vegetables now. Raw tomatoes in sandwich are fine. Tomatoes by itself, in salad or as a drink don’t do it for me. I am not an Asian food snob; I eat at PF Chang’s. I think Asian restaurants that promise No MSG are lying. I am allergic to shell fish but eat them anyway. I don’t cook much but my Asian-influenced raw-garlic chicken pasta is usually well received. Chewing gum is a marvelous invention and a necessity for me. Congee is my comfort food; Pho comes next.

2. I am a “progressive Christian” who does not believe in hell or that everything in the bible is God inspired. I believe salvation is for everyone and God is love and does not discriminate. I believe in Metaphysics and that the universe conspires to help fulfill our desires. I believe in the paranormal and had experienced it.

3. It is absolutely not important to me whether being gay is nature or nurture. Actually I believe that some are born gay, while others become gay. Regardless of whether it is nurture or nature, I don’t think that one chooses to be straight or gay. You are who you are.

4. I am suspicious of Republicans. You can blame Bush for that.

5. No, I do not own all of Streisand’s albums and I didn’t get all verklempt at her concert. On a typical day, I am listening to jazz vocalists crooning/belting American Standards. These days, Sondheim’s “Being Alive” has been playing incessantly in my head. Occasionally, I pretend to like rap. At the gym, I am either listening to dance mixes by my favorite DJs or This American Life. NPR is a staple when I am driving to and from work. I don’t know what to make of Diana Krall.

6. I love to travel. A few random travel moments include having a feast at a beautiful winery in Stellenbosch, South Africa: I have never witnessed such sumptuous selection of food; dissolving my cares away while drifting afloat at a Turkish bath in Budapest; checking to see if my ears had fallen off on top of the alps (Jungfrau) in Switzerland in the thick of winter; fanning off a group of gypsies trying to rob me at the Spanish Steps in Rome; having my best smoke salmon risotto (ever) in Venice; being stuck in Bangkok traffic for hours and no one even horned; rows and rows of rubber trees and palm trees along the drive to Muar, Malaysia to visit relatives when I was a kid, romancing in Paris, blackout in my hotel room on the first night in Beijing, going to a Canto-pop concert in Hong Kong …

My dream destination is Tibet.

7. Many years ago, I accidentally swallowed a coin while faking a magic trick in front of the other kids. The coin is still inside me. Also many years ago, while using the chin up bar at home, the bar loosened and fell on my head; I dropped to the floor unconscious. Food smelled funny for weeks.

8. I have a huge scar on the back of my right thigh from a spider bite. I don’t like spiders too much.

9. In the past three years, I’ve yo-yoed between having a 6-pack and a gut. I am currently in between.

10. My favorite camping moment is being naked in a natural hot springs (off Buckeye Campgrounds) in the Sierras gazing at stars.

11. I forget birthdays and have a habit of not keeping in touch with good friends. I still love all of you though.

12. I was once addicted to sleeping pills and would not sleep for days without them. I had admitted myself to a sleep clinic. I consider a good sleep one of the most valuable things in life.

13. My ex once tricked me into believing that the “Blair Witch Project” was a true documentary-movie and I was scared shitless for weeks. I am usually not that gullible.

14. I don’t get why people ask me tax questions when I tell them I am a CPA. I know nothing about tax except how to use Turbo Tax to file mine. Then again, I also assume that everyone knows Excel.

15. I still don’t understand baseball. I am sure baseball will be one of the questions they will ask at my Citizenship interview. I prefer Aussie Rules to soccer.

16. In Miami, David and I adopted a deaf stray cat and named her Zoey. We soon found out that Zoey is a male cat. We started calling him Joey. He reads lips and didn’t care for it. So Zoey it is. Barney and I made the same mistake when we adopted a female cat in San Jose. She is called Calvin. No wonder the cats are as confused as I am. Zoey remained in Miami. Now I have two cats: Calvin and Teddy. Disclaimer: They are not named after two of my friends, Calvin and Teddy ☺.

17. I am a Mac convert. My MacBook has never frozen. That’s a record for any computer I had used.

18. I was in the Singapore military for two and a half years for compulsory National Service. I was depressed when they cropped off my hair. Maybe that’s why I still get upset whenever the hairdresser cut my hair too short.

19. The probability of getting a haircut I like is about 60%. I am also not very photogenic. Out of every ten pictures taken of me, I will probably only find one acceptable. I intend to improve my averages.

20. I worry all the time. It could be random things like whether it is bad luck to take home a pebble from the beach to what to wear to an underwear party.

21. My drink of choice is red wine. You can have great tasting wine from South America, Spain, Italy, South Africa and Australia for under $7. California makes good Zinfandels. I get wines at Trader Joes. I go all red (blood-shot red) when I have a few sips of alcohol. Some Asians don’t have the enzymes to break down alcohol; I happen to be one of the unlucky (or lucky) ones who have the “birth defect”. Thanks to Mark, I learned that if I take Pepcid AC acid reducer prior to alcohol consumption, the “red” effect is minimized. On weekend, I don’t leave home without it. I also learned that I should take the acid reducer discreetly at a party. People around me sometimes think that I am doing drugs.

22. These past few weeks, I have been hanging around people who talk about spaceships, achieving levels of awakenings, vortex and vibrational healing, past lives, alphabiotics, reiki, raindrop therapy, creating structures, crystals, etc. I acted nonchalantly as if I too discussed these things all the time.

23. I lost most of my growing-up pictures while moving to a new house. I would love to see some of these pictures because I remember being insecure about my looks. I used to think that my eyes were too small, my lips too thick and nose too flat. I even put on non-prescription glasses as a teenager just to shield the eyes. Wow! Was that vanity or insecurity? Ironically, today, I’d rather wear contacts than put on glasses when I am out of the house. I am either less insecure now or I have improved with age. Wait! Why do I have shades on in so many of my pictures? Hmmm…

24. I have a very bad sense of direction. I don’t think I will ever drive without GPS again.

25. The most interesting first date is when my date requested to energetically aligned me first before dinner. And that’s not even an excuse to touch me.

Wednesday, November 05, 2008

Happy Days are Here Again

We did it! Yes all of us who prayed, donated, volunteered, talked to our friends and families, knocked on doors, blogged, youtubed, put up signs, made calls, meditated, hoped, believed, had faith, voted.....

I am so proud to be a part of this historical moment.

Even as Prop 8, the ban on gay marriage, appears likely to pass, I still believe that in time, we will defeat bigotry. Let's continue to fight for equality!

Monday, November 03, 2008

Dream Big

Like many of you, I refuse to count the chicks before they are hatched. The signs are encouraging; a refreshing wave and a hunger for change is sweeping this nation. I am hopeful. A little meditation will be my contribution to Marriage for All and electing a leader who believes in world peace and has the resolve to bring this nation together and restore our standing in the world. A leader who believes that we all can play a part to change the world. A tall order but I heart it because I myself am a dreamer.

My condolences

I am glad you took time to share some special moments with Toot. She didn't wait a day longer. She didn't need to. You have accomplished the improbable, however the outcome may be. And she knew it.

I love my Granny dearly. But there was a point in my life where my education, career, entertainment/fun and relationships took center stage and I didn't spend more quality time with her. Then it was too late. Granny is in a happy place and one day I hope to spend some special moments with her.

Sunday, November 02, 2008

Busy week: Recruiting in LA, Energy Healing & Creating a blog

Busy week!

Presenting to an auditorium full of MBA students at UCLA is not my day job so it did zap some energy from me to fly to LA this week to speak to a group of bright young students at the Anderson School of Management. My colleague David was with me and we had a good recruiting session mingling with a very enthusiastic group. It must have been five years since I last visited LA. LA is pretty much the same except the hobos are now asking for a buck instead of a quarter, a good indicator of the the state of the economy.

I spent the weekend helping Lawrence, an energy healer and my newest friend, create a blog. He gave me a healing session and yes, I felt renewed and ready for the new week ahead. Yes it is the week that will make history!

Check out the blog:

http://the-healing-touch.blogspot.com

Lawrence, if you make it big in the city, remember to tell everyone I discovered you :-)

Cheers!

Saturday, October 25, 2008

Apple stands up against Discrimination

A week ago, I bought a MacBook to replace my crashed PC laptop. I managed to revive my PC but decided to keep my Mac anyway. After all, this Mac is a marvel. I knew I made the right choice when Apple publicly announced a few days later that it supports NO on Prop 8, a proposition that will write discrimination into the California constitution to ban marriage for same-sex couple. Here's the statement on Apple's website:

No on Prop 8

October 24, 2008

Apple is publicly opposing Proposition 8 and making a donation of $100,000 to the No on 8 campaign. Apple was among the first California companies to offer equal rights and benefits to our employees’ same-sex partners, and we strongly believe that a person’s fundamental rights — including the right to marry — should not be affected by their sexual orientation. Apple views this as a civil rights issue, rather than just a political issue, and is therefore speaking out publicly against Proposition 8.

Wednesday, October 08, 2008

Don't be complacent on Prop 8



The polls are showing that we may lose this once in a life time chance to make gay marriage permanently legal in California. Whether you live in California or not, eliminating gay marriage will be a huge step backward for the entire country. Please join me in turning the tide and donate or volunteer to the VOTE NO Campaign. We are way behind in fund raising and our opponent's relentless assaults on the airwaves are gaining momentum. Let's make a difference while we still can. Of course, if you are an American citizen, register to vote NO on Prop 8. Let's make history and say NO to the hate campaign.

Nobody should tell anyone if they can marry. Do not allow them to write discrimination into our constitution.

Donate, Volunteer and Vote (Registered Californian)!

No On Prop 8

Saturday, September 20, 2008

My New Favorite Person

 



Rachael Maddow

Watch her on MSNBC after The Olbermann show at 9pm EDT.
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The Rachael Maddow Show

Monday, September 15, 2008

McBush without Palin




Hmmm...So the McCain campaign moved a rally in Jacksonville, FL to a bigger stadium to accommodate overwhelming interest. The attendance is anything but overwhelming.

People are more interested in your #2. Get the hint, we don't want you.

Alaskan Girl says Thanks but NO THANKS

 
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Alaska Women says NO to Sarah Palin

Sunday, September 14, 2008

Greg: Get Well Now!

To Greg who is undergoing surgery tomorrow. Keep your spirits up. I will be thinking good thoughts.